After You’ve Healed

May 24, 2016

Protect Yo HeART” by UncuttART

Almost every week someone reaches out to me with a fibromyalgia story. They likely Googled “fibromyalgia” and found my “Pain All Over” article that I wrote a few years ago.

They ask “Did you really heal?”

Yes, I did.

I sense their desperation. Sometimes I feel their fear, hopelessness, depression, anger, frustration.

I feel their pain.

It’s no coincidence that one of my life’s challenges was dealing with a chronic pain condition for several years.

I feel things – deeply.

So deeply that I can remember when I was younger thinking that I couldn’t handle the depth with which I felt emotion – both mine and others.

Someone reading my astrological chart once told me that “my body was my greatest teacher in this lifetime”.

Truer words were never spoken.

Mind, body, spirit. How often we hear those words now. Thank God. Because if we don’t realize their connection, we’ll never heal from a challenging illness or condition.

It took me years after the pain had gone away to write about my experience. I’d become a holistic health practitioner to help others heal but I found myself shying away from working with clients who had fibromyalgia.

Just the story of their pain drained my energy, and if there was one thing I’d learned from my own experience, it was to protect my life force at all costs.

I began studying energy healing and what I learned only confirmed what my intuition had taught me. To nurture myself deeply before I can help others.

I have communicated with so many people about their journey living with daily chronic pain and I can almost predict who is more likely to make it through the fire.

They’re the ones still able to feel Joy in spite of the pain.

They recognize there’s a reason this is happening to them – a deeper reason than just the side effects of an accident or a virus.

I can sense in their words (written or spoken) that they choose hope over despair.

It’s one of their life’s challenges that can lead them into the light if they so choose.

They have both accepted their condition while at the same time believe they can heal.

What happens after you’ve healed?

Hopefully, you have more awareness.

You’ve been enlightened a bit. The world never quite seems the same.

You’ve let go of fear.

There’s a sense of peace and calm about your life.

And last, but not least, you’re better prepared for the next big challenge that will come your way.

Because healing doesn’t mean you’ll never need healing again.

Just a couple of years after I’d recovered from fibromyalgia, I almost died from a three-month bout of whooping cough.

I put my faith in a Chinese energy healer and herbalist who helped me recover. I can remember that in spite of the seriousness of my illness, I had very little fear.

There have been other challenges and there will be more until I take my last breath.

It’s part of the human experience.

But it can be so different without fear.

To face whatever happens with grace rather than despair or anger.

To never again separate the body from the mind and the spirit.

Of course, I can see more clearly having walked through the fire myself a few times in my life.

We all wish our bodies could talk to us (well, they can – just not literally) and tell us that that toxic relationship is hurting our heart.

Or not being true to our life’s purpose is causing chronic fatigue.

Or that grief “so deep it’s buried in your bones” (as a healer once told me) is the reason our lungs are hurting.

After you’ve healed, be sure to take stock of why you think you got sick in the first place, and what you did that led to your healing. It will come in handy when life throws another challenge your way.

“Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first and the lesson afterward.”
– Oscar Wilde

Amen, Oscar Wilde.

With love,


  1. Thank you Barbara! ❤️

  2. Angela McCallumore May 25, 2016 at 10:13 am Reply

    Thank you Barbara! Your comment on letting go of fear as a great byproduct of healing speaks volumes to me. In the mist of my pain I lived continually with fear, anger and pain. Now as i have healed more and more of myself there is no fear,less pain and much more joy and happiness. I am not a professional healer however I have learned to protect myself from the inside out. I often reach out and share with others some of the lessons I have learned in hope it will help them or even as a gift of hope. Thanks again, Angela McCallumore

  3. Hi Barbara! I am surprised that you don’t feel people’s hope and excitement after you’ve answered their question “Did you really heal?” You are the first and only person I’ve ever met who got over fibromyalgia and I was super happy to hear your story. It validated my belief that I, too, will heal, and that I’m not just in denial about my incurable misery. So thank you for spreading hope!

    • Aww, Thank you, Lily! You always pop into my mind when I’m writing/talking about fibromyalgia. We’re going to celebrate together when that day comes when your pain is no longer. 🙂 Sending love and lots of healing hugs. xoxo
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