Moving On!

May 29, 2014

Yesterday I signed a lease on a new apartment in Jersey City. Really, I did. This is not another false alarm like my almost-move to Asheville in the fall of 2012. I am a bit terrified to report that this is the real deal.

Moving On!

This MAJOR life event unfolded in less than a week. Although many years have led me to this decision, one day I just decided that I could not afford to live in my beautiful NYC apartment any longer. It had been the cause of many sleepless nights and I had swept the reality of my situation under the rug for far too long.

Why not another less expensive apartment in NYC? Perhaps one in an outer borough or upstate NY? Good question! I wish I knew the answer. For some reason I was guided directly across the Hudson River from where I now live.

Whispers in my ear, a visit to a friend who lives in Jersey City, several references on TV  and at the movies about “Jersey girls”, and a rare opening of a loft space in a building filled with artists right next door to the building where my good friend lives with her children.

Knowings. This seems to be how I make life decisions these days. Something inside of me just knew that this was the right decision. My dreams and meditations were filled with messages and signs.

There is an element of comfort, an easing out of my life here in Manhattan, to be just across the river. It’s under five minutes by train or ferry.

Sunset4For fifteen years I have watched the sunset over Jersey City from this side of the Hudson River. Soon I will watch the sun rise over Manhattan.

This past week I have had the opportunity to practice everything I teach. To face my fear, breathe through it, honor my emotions and release them.

I think I cried (I know I did!) buckets of tears for three days straight – feeling deeply the loss of my beautiful home, my neighborhood, my identity as a New Yorker, and of course, the memories.

I was surprised at how raw and intense my emotions were and equally surprised at how quickly the fear and sadness began to change to excitement.

I have the most amazing and supportive friends who leapt to my side to listen, love and encourage me. You know who you are and I deeply, deeply love you!

And…I DANCED! The minute I felt the fear and anxiety creep into my gut, or the sadness into my heart, I put on a happy song (Yes, even THIS happy song) and I danced and I sang.

This is the best medicine there is!

There have been major glitches along the way. My new lease starts on Sunday, June 1st but I couldn’t get out of my old lease until August 30th. So…if anyone out there wants to sublease my beautiful apartment in July and/or August, contact me!

I won’t write another love letter to NYC. You can read the one I wrote in 2012 when I almost moved. I still mean every word of it. But I am excited for the next chapter in my life to unfold. I’ll be part of a vibrant community of artists, who surely will inspire and motivate me to make art again.

I have always loved the hustle and bustle of NYC. My Vata energy craves it and has fed off of it for many years. But Ayurveda teaches that we need to look to opposites for balancing the doshas. I’m hoping that the quiet of Jersey City will be good for me. And if I need a dose of crazy, I’m just five minutes away.

I will always be a Detroit girl, and a NYC girl – I’m just adding a new title to my story. And I’ve always wondered what it was like to be a Jersey girl!

Wish me luck for a smooth transition and please keep me in your prayers. I hope that my story will inspire you a little if you are stuck in a pattern of inertia and fear of change. Once you take the leap, amazing things start to happen. As Marie Forleo always says, “Everything is figure-out-able!” This has been my mantra since this new adventure began!

Much love,
Barbara

64 Comments
  1. Barbara, great post!
    Funny, now that I have learned a bit about Ayurveda, I think that it is my Vata energy that led me to move to the Bronx from Manhattan. I can easily get into Manhattan for my dose of that energy and then retreat to the quiet of the Bronx to recoup and rejuvenate, to ground.

    You sound so excited. It will be wonderful. And note, that does not mean that there won’t be any adjustments. That always comes with change, of course. But this move sounds great! And so many signs kept you in that direction and you just followed your intuition, the best way to go! <3

  2. Barbara, great post!
    Funny, now that I have learned a bit about Ayurveda, I think that it is my Vata energy that led me to move to the Bronx from Manhattan. I can easily get into Manhattan for my dose of that energy and then retreat to the quiet of the Bronx to recoup and rejuvenate, to ground.

    You sound so excited. It will be wonderful. And note, that does not mean that there won’t be any adjustments. That always comes with change, of course. But this move sounds great! And so many signs kept you in that direction and you just followed your intuition, the best way to go! <3

  3. Barb! How exciting!! Blessings to you, “dear one” on your new adventure, very exciting! and I loved the article, written with so much heart!

  4. Barb! How exciting!! Blessings to you, “dear one” on your new adventure, very exciting! and I loved the article, written with so much heart!

  5. Oh my goodness, Barbara (AKA Jersey Girl), what a fantastic and beautiful post this was! Feeling the sadness and nostalgia of leaving a home in which you have so many memories and still being able to experience the anticipation and excitement that accompanies making a new home…I love all the emotion. And the photos you posted took my breath away. When you’re ready, take some of your new place- I would love to see it! And you have to take one of the first sunrise you see over Manhattan.
    I’ll be thinking of you this weekend! XOXOXOXOXO

  6. Oh my goodness, Barbara (AKA Jersey Girl), what a fantastic and beautiful post this was! Feeling the sadness and nostalgia of leaving a home in which you have so many memories and still being able to experience the anticipation and excitement that accompanies making a new home…I love all the emotion. And the photos you posted took my breath away. When you’re ready, take some of your new place- I would love to see it! And you have to take one of the first sunrise you see over Manhattan.
    I’ll be thinking of you this weekend! XOXOXOXOXO

  7. Great post, and I love the undercurrent of anticipation and optimism I feel from you. Good work! You are an inspiration, and indeed teaching (by example) what you’ve learned. Nice job, Jersey Girl! See you in a few days for a giant hug and some catch-up time! Love you, my friend.

  8. Yay, Barbara!! I’m very excited to you. Thank you for sharing that video too! Although I’d heard the song many times, this was a HAPPY new perspective on it! 🙂

  9. Yay, Barbara!! I’m very excited to you. Thank you for sharing that video too! Although I’d heard the song many times, this was a HAPPY new perspective on it! 🙂

  10. Yay, Barbara!! I’m very excited to you. Thank you for sharing that video too! Although I’d heard the song many times, this was a HAPPY new perspective on it! 🙂

    • Hi Mom! I’m so proud of your for taking this step and making the move – literally!! While I will certainly miss your NYC apartment and visiting you there, I can’t wait to visit you in Jersey! And I know that your new place will be just as visually stunning as in NYC – I like to call it AnthroBarbara chic! 🙂 Love you mom! XOXO

  11. “Start spreading the news, I’m leaving today”, so says old Blue Eyes and our wonderful Barbara. We can tweak it any way we want because wherever you were or wherever you go, your positive energy goes with you. I am excited and happy knowing that your anticipation and optimism about this change has emerged. There is no doubt that you will bring your own energy to your new surroundings, I cannot wait to visit you there! I remember the day you moved in to your NYC apartment and all of our wonderful visits together, and look forward to many more with you in your new place Jersey Girl! xoxo Mary

    • Hi Mom! I’m so proud of your for taking this step and making the move – literally!! While I will certainly miss your NYC apartment and visiting you there, I can’t wait to visit you in Jersey! And I know that your new place will be just as visually stunning as in NYC – I like to call it AnthroBarbara chic! 🙂 Love you mom! XOXO

    • Oh, Mary! We are going to have such a good time in JC when you come visit me! 😉 Thanks for the love – you always go straight to my heart, my dear dear friend. xoxo

  12. “Start spreading the news, I’m leaving today”, so says old Blue Eyes and our wonderful Barbara. We can tweak it any way we want because wherever you were or wherever you go, your positive energy goes with you. I am excited and happy knowing that your anticipation and optimism about this change has emerged. There is no doubt that you will bring your own energy to your new surroundings, I cannot wait to visit you there! I remember the day you moved in to your NYC apartment and all of our wonderful visits together, and look forward to many more with you in your new place Jersey Girl! xoxo Mary

    • Good for you! Wishing you all the best. You are such an inspiration. I am feeling so far away from The Kids and I know it’s time to make a move for me, as well. Enjoy the change and please stay in touch. 🙂 Teddi

  13. Good for you! Wishing you all the best. You are such an inspiration. I am feeling so far away from The Kids and I know it’s time to make a move for me, as well. Enjoy the change and please stay in touch. 🙂 Teddi

  14. I agree with everyone – it’s a beautiful post. So many of your thoughts and feelings definitely “hit home” with me. I love your outlook and your energy is contagious. Best to you always, Debbie

    • You go Jersey GIRL!!!
      Barbara, life brings us a multitude of opportunities and options for new life experiences if we choose to listen and take action. It’s sounds to me you are on track and LISTENING! You have it going on and you’re so close to Gotham City, so anytime you want to visit your and Ralph’s favorite haunts, you can! As for your lovely apartment in NYC that you may want to sublet, well, I might be your gal! It would be great if Paul and I could sublet it for a few weeks. I need to speak with him about it. Would you please call me or I can contact you to discuss details. This is good news! Until later, Blessings e.

    • Hi Debbie! Thank you!!! xoxo

  15. You go Jersey GIRL!!!
    Barbara, life brings us a multitude of opportunities and options for new life experiences if we choose to listen and take action. It’s sounds to me you are on track and LISTENING! You have it going on and you’re so close to Gotham City, so anytime you want to visit your and Ralph’s favorite haunts, you can! As for your lovely apartment in NYC that you may want to sublet, well, I might be your gal! It would be great if Paul and I could sublet it for a few weeks. I need to speak with him about it. Would you please call me or I can contact you to discuss details. This is good news! Until later, Blessings e.

    • You go Jersey GIRL!!!
      Barbara, life brings us a multitude of opportunities and options for new life experiences if we choose to listen and take action. It’s sounds to me you are on track and LISTENING! You have it going on and you’re so close to Gotham City, so anytime you want to visit your and Ralph’s favorite haunts, you can! As for your lovely apartment in NYC that you may want to sublet, well, I might be your gal! It would be great if Paul and I could sublet it for a few weeks. I need to speak with him about it. Would you please call me or I can contact you to discuss details. This is good news! Until later, Blessings e.

  16. Lovely post..know those feelings well:) The grieving when change is coming the letting go of somewhere/someone before the excitement of the venture into something new. …jann

  17. Barbara!
    Speaking to one from Detroit, who has moved many times, you will be fine! We will -always have a soft spot for Detroit…And moving is hard! Next to childbirth I think moving is physically and emotionally #2!
    It is all about adding to your life’s resume and adventures! It will be great! You have friends, inspiration from within and your artist comrades and your kids! Buckle up and keep yourself in good health!
    Congrats!

  18. Barbara!
    Speaking to one from Detroit, who has moved many times, you will be fine! We will -always have a soft spot for Detroit…And moving is hard! Next to childbirth I think moving is physically and emotionally #2!
    It is all about adding to your life’s resume and adventures! It will be great! You have friends, inspiration from within and your artist comrades and your kids! Buckle up and keep yourself in good health!
    Congrats!

  19. Congrats Barbara on making the decision! I am also moving in the next few weeks but only up the road xxxx Love to visit you in Jersey sometime. I have heard so much about it xxx

  20. Wonderful post, Barbara! I remember when you went to North Carolina, determined to move there. I have always loved your photos of NYC, too. This sounds like a new time and place in life – a time and place for new opportunities. I also love that you will still be so close to the City. More than anything, I can hear your trust in yourself. And then things just opened for you. Many, many, many blessings, Barbara.

  21. Wonderful post, Barbara! I remember when you went to North Carolina, determined to move there. I have always loved your photos of NYC, too. This sounds like a new time and place in life – a time and place for new opportunities. I also love that you will still be so close to the City. More than anything, I can hear your trust in yourself. And then things just opened for you. Many, many, many blessings, Barbara.

  22. WOW! You are powerful Barbara! The roller coaster ride of
    Your emotions are felt in your heartfelt words …
    How wonderful this new adventure will be!
    God Bless and enjoy…

  23. WOW! You are powerful Barbara! The roller coaster ride of
    Your emotions are felt in your heartfelt words …
    How wonderful this new adventure will be!
    God Bless and enjoy…

  24. I Rise

    You may write me down in history
    With your bitter, twisted lies,
    You may tread me in the very dirt
    But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

    Does my sassiness upset you?
    Why are you beset with gloom?
    ‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
    Pumping in my living room.

    Just like moons and like suns,
    With the certainty of tides,
    Just like hopes springing high,
    Still I’ll rise.

    Did you want to see me broken?
    Bowed head and lowered eyes?
    Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
    Weakened by my soulful cries.

    Does my haughtiness offend you?
    Don’t you take it awful hard
    ‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
    Diggin’ in my own back yard.

    You may shoot me with your words,
    You may cut me with your eyes,
    You may kill me with your hatefulness,
    But still, like air, I’ll rise.

    Does my sexiness upset you?
    Does it come as a surprise
    That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
    At the meeting of my thighs?

    Out of the huts of history’s shame
    I rise
    Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
    I rise
    I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
    Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
    Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
    I rise
    Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
    I rise
    Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
    I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
    I rise
    I rise
    I rise.

    -Maya Angelou

  25. I Rise

    You may write me down in history
    With your bitter, twisted lies,
    You may tread me in the very dirt
    But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

    Does my sassiness upset you?
    Why are you beset with gloom?
    ‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
    Pumping in my living room.

    Just like moons and like suns,
    With the certainty of tides,
    Just like hopes springing high,
    Still I’ll rise.

    Did you want to see me broken?
    Bowed head and lowered eyes?
    Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
    Weakened by my soulful cries.

    Does my haughtiness offend you?
    Don’t you take it awful hard
    ‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
    Diggin’ in my own back yard.

    You may shoot me with your words,
    You may cut me with your eyes,
    You may kill me with your hatefulness,
    But still, like air, I’ll rise.

    Does my sexiness upset you?
    Does it come as a surprise
    That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
    At the meeting of my thighs?

    Out of the huts of history’s shame
    I rise
    Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
    I rise
    I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
    Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
    Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
    I rise
    Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
    I rise
    Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
    I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
    I rise
    I rise
    I rise.

    -Maya Angelou

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