What I Learned Last Year

January 1, 2015

I cringed a little starting this newsletter because one thing I’ve been doing over the past few days is clearing out my own inbox, ruthlessly unsubscribing and attempting to back away from the computer. So, the thought of my email landing in your likely-crowded inbox gave me pause.

But I decided to go ahead with it because it actually relates to one of the lessons I learned this year. Here are a few of them – maybe you will relate and have an ah-ha moment – or maybe they will inspire you to reflect on your own. Or maybe you’ll hit “Delete” before even reading. That’s okay, too. 🙂

Don’t assume to know what others want or need.

I fret so much thinking that I’m bothering people by writing and generally blabbing with enthusiasm about all that I’ve learned. I didn’t set out to be a teacher but all of a sudden I’ve found myself in that role. I seem to have an insatiable appetite for learning about holistic health and it would be just stupid and selfish not to share.

What I Learned Last Year

Last year I realized that those who need and/or want the information will benefit from it and perhaps something I write about might initiate a positive change. There are also many people with a totally different mindset and I never forget that I was there myself not too long ago.

There’s a spectrum for all things.

This past year I began to realize that it’s okay to fluctuate from one end to the other, as long as I don’t stay stuck at either end too long. This relates especially to my introversion as I struggle with being out in the public eye more and more. I learned that I can open up and be fully out in the World, or I can retreat to calm and restore myself in my World.

I practiced this a lot – especially during the holidays – staying centered and inward as much as possible. Peace and calm was my reward. No doubt my continued devotion to a meditation practice allowed this to happen.

Ayurveda really is the knowledge of life!

Most Ayurvedic practitioners will tell you that you need to go through all of the Ayurvedic seasons (Vata, Pitta, Kapha) for one year with awareness to truly understand what Ayurveda is all about.

Although I’ve sort of been doing this for several years, last year I did it in a more conscious way and was amazed at what a difference it made in my mind, body and spirit. Yes, I fell off the wagon many times but the awareness and desire to feel good got me right back on.

You’re never too old to flourish, change, become inspired, get healthy, let go of the past.

There’s not much to say about this other than it’s 100% true and I experienced it in a major way last year.

Find your tribe.

Be they family, friends, or both, finding a tribe of like-minded individuals can be a lifeline. Outside of my family, I have little tribes of precious friends and I am a member of a huge global tribe of energy healers who radiate light and love from afar. My tribe(s) helped me navigate some rough waters this past year.

As solitary as I sometimes like to be, I am grateful for the support. Pick your tribe carefully. You will know if it’s right for you.

Listen to the messages!

Most of the time I don’t have a clue who’s guiding me, sending me messages. But this past year I learned, without an iota of doubt, that we are indeed guided by forces most of us can’t see. I learned that by meditating daily and staying open to receiving, messages and synchronicities come with greater frequency, clarity and urgency. LOL, it’s how I ended up in Jersey City! 🙂

JOY can be found in the dark, and the pain, as well as in the happiest of times.

I wanted to end with this one because I so deeply believe in its truth. There were many months last year when I felt like I could have just folded myself up. But at the same time there was a peaceful knowing that there was a reason for what was happening and if I just had faith and went with the flow, I would come out feeling lighter than before.

I felt at times like I was hovering above myself, observing the physical me who was hurting, but being able to detach from it. I think I have all of the major traumas from my life to thank for that. For some reason, I have for the most part, chosen hope over bitterness and despair.

We all have our stories and mine isn’t any more special than yours. And while we don’t grow from staying stuck and wallowing in them, it’s good to know our story, learn from it, and move forward.

I don’t have any lofty goals or resolutions this year. Maybe I’ll miraculously become better with deadlines and keeping a regular schedule. Or maybe I’ll embrace the free spirit in me and have a creative breakthrough. I plan to let 2015 unfold mysteriously and without an agenda. How about you?

It’s truly been a blessing for me to share with you this past year. Your encouragement and support means the world to me and it gives me a greater purpose outside of myself. Thank you for that.

Happy New Year!

With love,

  1. A very Happy New Year to you dear Barbara
    I always enjoy reading your blogs, so filled with new information on how to live a better life with Ayurveda as well as such openness and authenticity about where you are in life. I treasure your friendship so very much and often find myself nodding my head in agreement with some of your experiences so that instantly re-connects me with you as an important member of my energy medicine tribe. You have made me feel okay about not setting great intentions for this coming year also, I just want to be present in each moment and allow the divine to take the lead as I’ve been too much of a control freak for too many years, time to let go and go with my flow.
    Much love to you and I am so excited about seeing you in person at our Hawaiin retreat next month.
    Hugs, Gael xxoo

  2. Hi Barbara,
    I appreciate reading what you write and resonate with so much of it that I am happy to see your letter in my inbox. I have unsubscribed to many, but somehow yours has always spoken to me with something I need to hear in the moment. Thanks for being you.

  3. Hi Barbara,
    Although we have only met briefly, I treasure your words and the online friendship we share. I too have been deleting lots of mail and unsubscribing from most newsletters, but I always look forward to yours so I’m glad you are sharing!
    Peace and health to you.

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